Day to day, choice to choice, decision to decision. We are either finding solutions or finding excuses.
As adults we have usually established our core beliefs, our way of ‘looking at things’ and our ‘typical responses’ - so much so that it becomes habitual to us.
I often post training tips or concepts, and inevitably I will get a few responses in the negative - as in ‘well I can’t do that because xyz’.
Often it’s an excuse, and just as often it’s a reason - and to my mind the difference between an excuse and a reason is validity. For example this morning I didn’t want to go the full distance on my walk (4 kilometers), and around the 1 kilometer mark I started thinking ‘well today I’ll just go to the mill’ instead of going all the way to the 2km marker, effectively cutting my walk short.
My excuses ? I’m tired, it’s muggy, I’m already fatigued and I’m not even half way yet - all true, yet none holding any valid weight to cut my walk short. If I had a reason it would have been an actual thing that would prevent me going the distance (like a medical reason).
That said, sometimes it can be really easy to begin using our ‘reasons’ to ‘opt out’ more often than not.
As an adult I have had to retrain my brain to search for solutions - even with valid reasons.
We have to realize that everyone has reasons - at some point we all suffer from physical or mental challenges that prevent us from doing what we love - but instead of choosing ‘I can’t’ maybe we should challenge ourselves to start thinking ‘how can I’
Take care xo